In case you live under a rock and don’t know this man, this is H. Heffner!*
He’s like the CEO of the entire Playboy Empire. He’s also known for being an older man, with stunning young women on his arms.
What’s he got to do with me?
…so last night I went out with a friend. Had the most amazing time ever. (Haha, no, I haven’t fell in like with him. But I really did have a great time. And we actually decided to hang out again).
So I’ve always been into older guys, like even back in high school I was attracted to older men. However, I was not able to act on that until recently (…ya know? With the law and statutory rape and stuff.). The first time I went on a date with an older man, was back during my freshman year of college. It was fun but nothing stemmed from it. So recently I have tried to get back into that older pool of gentlemen.
(Haha… funny story, I literally joined OurTime, the dating site for singles 50+ years old. That never went anywhere either… turns out its free o join, but it costs to send/receive messages. Lol, whomp.)
However, I was fortunate across to come across this guy. While I’m not going to say his age, I will say he is over 10 years older than I am. He’s bald too! (How freaking hoottt??? Yep, I love bald guys too).
And b/c we decided to meet again, it was basically confirmation that something more could stem from this. Then… it got me thinking.
As much as I love older guys, should I stay away from that? B/c while maturity wouldn’t be an issue but the obvious fact remains that we’re in different places of our lives. And it’ll always be that way, if I date older guys. And it almost made me feel like I could miss out on certain things in life, b/c of the guys I like to date. While I don’t have any examples, I’m sure that is something to consider when deciding to date that way.
Now, don’t answer that… it was just something that came across my mind.
Along with the thought of how annoying it is when people automatically assume I want an older man for his money, or that I want to be a sugar baby. I literally deal with that now. When friends (and even family) realize I like older men, that’s the first thing they say. It’s almost disrespectful.
My temporary decision is that I’m not going to completely shy away from older guys though. I came to this conclusion b/c I like guys who closer to my age too. Therefore, there’s no telling what age guy I could end up with. The issue would come when I decided to solely date one ‘type’ of guy.
Additionally, if I thought hard enough, I could probably convince myself that dating outside my race would cause me to miss out on things. Which I definitely don’t believe.
So long story short, I think it was just a random thought inspired by the fear of trying something new. That happens ya know?
*Just kidding about living under a rock, I only know him b/c I have always found him extremely attractive lol.